Every Valentines Day I find myself casually visiting every stationary store in my zip code and shopping for some last minute cards or gifts. This year will be no different. The thrill of shopping with the rest of the last minute cupids is kind of fun for me. I can almost hear the words “You can do this” being chanted inside everyone’s head.
In the middle of all the craziness I often find myself chatting with some poor guy (abd sometimes girls) who is up to his head in love… but just speechless when it comes to finding the words to profess his undying love on paper.
“I just don’t know what to say” they tell me with big sad puppy dog eyes.
Being the guy that I am- Valentines Day or not- I automatically kick into my “No Cupid Left Behind” mode and help them write out a card.
So to help everyone out this year I thought I would share my simple wisdom for writing a card or great love letter. As always I keep is short and sweet- yet powerful and effective.
So without further delay, I present "Love Letters 101 by David Cruz"
A love letter, in my opinion should have three parts: A Reminder, A confession and A Proclamation.
Lets start with “The Reminder”
I always start a letter with a simple honest statement that reminds my loved one of our time together. Say things like:
“The past few years have been life changing.” or “Two years ago when we met- I was a beer drinking Frat Guy and now you have made me an honest man.”
AVOID ALL TEMPTATION to get cheesy or say ANYTHING you have ever heard in a movie… cause they will know. Plus- “You Complete Me” is just- well wrong.
Keep it short and sweet.
This should be the body of your letter. It will say things like “There are times that I think of life without you- and I feel incomplete and broken.” or “I want you to know how happy you have made me, I enjoy waking up next you, holding your hand and the smell of your perfume in the morning."
Share genuine feelings here, be vulnerable.
This part is important. It solidifies and renews your love past any expiration or doubt that anyone can have. It’s always great to hear that someone loves you, forever. So remind them.
But in this proclamation- provide security, safety and most of all humor. It’s a great moment to make them laugh!
It should sound like this:
” I want you to know that I will hold your hand whenever you are near me, that I will protect you from anyone or anything life will throw at us. Including that moment that someone attempts to buy that last cupcake you were craving at Sprinkles. I will kick their ass because I love you.”
Remember friends- short and sweet and to the point! This is love, not your college admission application!
Okay lovebirds, you are now armed with a little bit of guidance! Go forward and make your loved one swoon! You are the Prince Charming I knew you always could be!
Happy Valentines Day!
David (aka Cupid)
David Cruz, III
David is the Founder and Creative Director of Finding Cupid. He has been writing about Dating & Relationships for the last five years and is a contributor to Huffington Post, Frontiers Media, Your Tango and many other publications. David can often be found in the greeting card aisle seaching for the ultimate love card, or a bakery making bad decisions for himself.